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Moving in with your partner is a huge step. It’s not only a big deal in a relationship, but you have the added pressure of moving house, which is one of the most stressful things you can do in your life. While moving in together is an exciting adventure, and the next step in your relationship, it can either make or break a relationship. So, you need to go in with an open mind and not expect everything to be a bed of roses. Here are a few tips on what to do if you’re moving in with your partner:
Decide Where To Live
Kind of an important thing, you need to decide if you will move into their place, stay in yours, or find a new home together? It might be an easy decision for you depending on your situations now but take into consideration other factors like commutes to work, accommodations for any pets, local amenities, shopping, and safety. You are likely to have spent a lot of time over at one another’s places before you decide to move in, so you’ll have a good idea about each one and the pros and cons of you both living there. Some people want a fresh start together, to buy somewhere and achieve a shared sense of ownership together or to make somewhere your own together that’s new to both of you, if you’ve decided that this is the way forward for you then visit your nearest display home as soon as you can so you can get a good idea of what you’re looking for and what you need.
Take A Good Look At All Of Your Stuff
A lot of the effort and the discussion that goes into moving is about how much stuff we have and what we have. Most likely, you’ll find things that are duplicates between your two apartments – two toasters, two coffee tables – or things that you don’t want anymore. Then there’s the big stuff, like dressers and sofas that may not fit in the new place. Now’s the time to look at the things in both of your apartments and figure out what you have, what you’re keeping, and what you’re selling, donating or tossing before the move.
Talk about storage beforehand
It might seem like a small thing, but when you spend a lot of time with someone, you can find yourselves arguing about the simplest things. According to a survey by Sparefoot, approximately 30 percent of all couples who live together argue about clutter and, of these couples, more than 50 percent say it’s because of their partner’s clothes. Are you going to divide the closet and dresser drawers equally? Are they going to be okay with you having a load of products in the bathroom? The more problems you can solve before the move, the smoother your transition will be.
Work out the finances
Finances are often a massive reason that couples move in together and also a huge reason why people break up, so make sure you’ve got it all covered before you take the leap. Sort out a budget beforehand and make sure you have the discussion and ask those awkward questions, so you both know what’s going on and what’s expected of you. Will you split rent and utilities 50/50? Who will be responsible for paying the bills and managing finances? Sort these kinds of things out before you move.